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Youth Voice

05 Jul 2021
Self-Harm & The Summer

Summer can be hard especially if you’re struggling.

Whether you’re here out of interest or because things are tough at the moment, I just want to say thank-you for being here.  

Based on what I know...

People don’t notice things as much as you think they do.

Your brain makes you think about what people might do if they saw your scars/cuts, but the likelihood is that's just because you’re thinking about it that you think others will too.  

No-one leaves their home thinking...   “Oh, I should really look today to see if I can see someone’s scars or cuts”.

And if they did, what are the chances that they would even see or meet you?

Please remember that...you are beautiful.  

Yes, you've made some decisions in the past that have led to you having a scar or scars, but your past doesn’t define you.  

Don’t worry about what someone else might say.

Love yourself more than you love the most valuable person in your life.  

Respect yourself and please don’t feel pressured into doing something you don’t want to do.  

If you’re here as a friend or family member of someone who self-harms, here are some things NOT to say.  

Don’t point out their scars or cuts

Don’t tell them to wear something different or ask if they would be too hot. They're wearing what they're comfortable with wearing.

Please just be there for them and don’t get angry if they’re having a bad day or have relapsed.   Just give them options on support. If they don’t want to go out or do something, don’t pressure them, just let them go at their own pace.  

Even if you don’t think they will come, still invite them.  

Top tips:
  • Hang around with people who won’t judge you and will make you feel supported.
  • Set yourself small goals. Try to reach them but if you don’t...remember you can try again.
  • Remember your past does not define you.
  • Do what you are comfortable with.
  • Do what makes you happy.
  • It’s perfectly okay to need or want support.
Please, if you need help reach out there are so many people out there who would love to help YOU.
Written by one of the amazing members of Lifespace’s Youth Advisory Panel

Sources of advice/support on self-harm:

NHS App DistrACT
Young Minds


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